Drama in real life: Making planned gifts before death

My mother’s health has been declining over the past few months, and it’s produced a wee bit of year-end financial drama in our family. (The word “drama” is a bit of an exaggeration. Maybe it’s produced some year-end financial consternation?)

As long-time readers will recall, my mother has been in assisted living for more than a decade now. She lives a mellow life filled with television, her pet cat, and a regular routine. Because she has cognitive problems, it’s difficult for her to communicate. The doctors call her “non-verbal”, and they can’t explain the cause. She cannot form complete sentences (sometimes two words is tough!), and it seems as if she cannot formulate complex thoughts. It’s a mystery to everyone.

Today — at this very moment — my brother is driving my mom to the emergency room. It’s her third visit in six weeks, and it’s always the same issue: vomiting, dehydration, confusion. During the previous two episodes, a few days of hospital rest helped her, and she returned to the assisted living facility feeling better (and actually able to carry on a basic conversation, like you might have with a two-year-old).

So, Mom’s health is declining. That’s important point number one.

Important point number two is that her estate is larger than we once realized. For many, many years we believed that Mom had barely enough to get by. And it’s true that she’s never had a lot of cash in her bank account. However, we recently realized that when you look at her net worth, Mom actually has a sizable estate.

First, she owns an old house on two acres of land. Second, she owns 60% of the family box factory. Third, she owns the two acres on which the box factory sits and most of the structures on the land. Next, she has $66,000 in her bank accounts. Lastly, she has $437,000 in a SEP-IRA with Vanguard.

All told, she has a net worth of roughly $1.5 million, of which about $500,000 is liquid.

If Mom were to die today (or tomorrow or next month), that part of her estate in excess of $1,000,000 would be subject to a 10% estate tax. (This is the Oregon estate tax. The federal estate tax exemption is absurdly high. Good grief, is it high!) So, based on her current balances, that tax obligation would be about $50,000 — 10% of $500,000.

Please note that although I’ve done my best to provide accurate numbers and information in this article, it’s quite possible that I’ve made a mistake. I’m not an accountant, nor am I a financial planner. Please feel free to offer corrections.

Now, it’s common in situations like this for an older person with wealth to reduce estate taxes by gifting assets before they die.

Under current U.S. tax law, each year you can make a tax-free gift of up to $15,000 to any individual. Because Mom has three sons, she could give us each $15,000 per year without any sort of tax consequence. This $45,000 in gifts would reduce her estate by $45,000, theoretically saving $4500 in future taxes.

My cousin Duane, who has no financial interest in any of this (but who, because of his own struggles with throat cancer, has been giving tax-free gifts to his family), believes strongly that it’d be foolish to not make these tax-free gifts from Mom’s estate in 2021. To Duane, we’re “flushing $4500 down the toilet” if we do not write three $15,000 checks today.

However, there are other considerations.

  • First (and least) is that I have power of attorney for my mother. I’m very careful to avoid anything that would look even remotely self-serving. I’ve heard plenty of horror stories from other families where one or more people has essentially raided the wealth of an aging parent. I don’t want to be that person. (But honestly, this isn’t one of those situations.)
  • Second, Mom’s expenses are increasing. Her monthly rent at the assisted living facility is going up, for example, and she’s clearly incurring additional medical expenses lately. (Although her health insurance will cover a bulk of those costs.) My brothers and I are worried that Mom won’t have enough money to cover all of her expenses in the future. This may be an unfounded worry, but it’s still a worry.
  • Third, estate tax is only part of the equation. I e-mailed my accountant. He pointed out that sometimes it’s better for beneficiaries to inherit assets rather than be gifted them. “If the assets are gifted,” he wrote, “the [cost basis] in those assets are the same basis as your Mom’s basis. If you inherit, your basis is the fair market value at the time of death.” Translation: For non-cash assets, sometimes it makes sense to not make gifts before death.

So, there’s a lot to think about here. (And I haven’t even shared all of the considerations — only the most important ones.)

Here’s what this looks like from a practical perspective.

Because Mom is over 70-1/2, she already took her RMD (required minimum distribution) of $14,169.69 from her SEP-IRA this year. If she were to withdraw an additional $45,000 from her Vanguard account today, that’d put her SEP-IRA withdrawals at $59,169.69 for 2021. The first $40,400 of that is subject to zero tax. The next $18,769.69 is subject to 15% long-term capital gains tax, for a total of $2815.45 in taxes. Gifting $45,000 now would reduce her future estate tax by $4500. So, making these gifts would save a net of $1684.55 in taxes.

If we were to wait until tomorrow (January 1st) to withdraw the money from her Vanguard account (while writing the checks today — the checks must be written today), that would not only serve as her RMD for 2022, but it would also bump the 0% tax bracket from $40,400 to $41,675, which means the tax liability for the transaction would be $498.75. The net savings vs. future estate tax would thus be $4001.25, which is indeed a chunk of change.

Ultimately, however, I don’t think we’re going to make gifts from Mom’s estate in 2021. My brothers and I are too nervous about her financial situation, for one. We don’t want to deplete her cash if it might be needed for future medical expenses. For another, the logistics are problematic at this point (one o’clock in the afternoon on the last day of the year with me ninety minutes from the box factory and my brother with my Mom at the hospital).

But going into 2022, it feels like we’ll be having some interesting (and complicated) discussions about Mom’s estate! Maybe it’s time to sell the family homestead?

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There are 23 comments to "Drama in real life: Making planned gifts before death".

  1. bradwww says 31 December 2021 at 14:16

    transfer the company assets among the family – then she is below the 1m threshold and still has cash for her expenses.

    • J.D. says 31 December 2021 at 14:22

      Yes, this is one of the things we’ve been talking about. But even transferring company assets is a “gift”, right? There’s an annual limit of $15,000 in value ($16,000 starting tomorrow) before taxes are part of the equation.
      Anyhow, we need to talk about how to simplify her estate, and then how to best plan for the future. My brother wants to sell her house. I’ve been opposed to that, but purely for sentimental reasons. I think I’m past that now. I see the sense in selling. That would give her a big chunk of cash. She’d have enough to cover anticipated expenses AND we could begin gifting from the estate…

      • Brooklyn Money says 03 January 2022 at 11:33

        Yeah but what about the capital gains if you sell? I’m imagining it might exceed the exemption. If someone inherits a property you get the stepped up basis is my understanding. Note: Not an accountant, not financial advice. Might also be wrong ha.

        • Jeff says 07 January 2022 at 16:32

          But if it’s your primary residence would you have capital gains tax when you sell?

          • Paula says 10 January 2022 at 08:41

            Yes, if the difference between the cost basis and selling price exceeds $250,000 for an individual taxpayer and $500,000 for a married couple

          • Steve says 11 January 2022 at 04:00

            I don’t think you can give away $15k worth of a property anyways.

  2. Mary says 31 December 2021 at 15:49

    Personally, I would not transfer any real property to family members right now because of the cost basis issue. If I were going to do gift transfers, I would take them from the cash account and then use the IRA for any future medical expenses. Assuming her expenses are high enough, she could deduct them and reduce the tax obligation there. (Take all that with s grain of salt — I’m no accountant.)
    But really, I mainly wanted to comment in solidarity about how tough it is to make these difficult decisions. My 86-year old mom with advancing Alzheimer’s (stage 6 of 7) lives with me, and I’m her POA. It’s no fun having to be responsible for your parent’s wellbeing. 🙁

  3. Morgan Balavage says 31 December 2021 at 19:01

    If you’re concerned about her future medical expenses, couldn’t you and your brother just pay them in the future?

  4. Anne says 01 January 2022 at 08:48

    I can see why you would worry about seeming avaricious, but two things are working in your favor. 1. You and your two brothers seem to be on the same page and there seems little chance of hard feelings afterwards. And it’s nobody else’s business what the three of you do with your mother’s money. 2. You will be pretty much acting on the advice of an accountant and that means a lot.

  5. Paul says 01 January 2022 at 10:06

    It’s not your money until it’s your money. If she was in a different position she could make her own decision, but she isn’t.

  6. Henry says 01 January 2022 at 13:17

    Not to add to the complications, but my understanding was that the $15k ($16k in 2022) exemption was only the annual exemption which does not require additional paperwork. There is also the ~$12m lifetime exemption which is above and beyond the annual exemption (but requires some paperwork).
    In this case it likely makes sense to stick with the annual exemption as it sounds like don’t want to do anything too drastic. But as you game out the various implications (and for other readers), I thought it worth mentioning that the exemption you mention is not as limited as it first appears.

    • Steve says 11 January 2022 at 03:53

      This is about the Oregon estate tax, which only has a $1m lifetime exemption.

  7. Ringo says 01 January 2022 at 14:43

    Good luck, JD. These decisions and this stage of life are hard.

  8. steveark says 02 January 2022 at 15:05

    That is not too different from my dad’s situation. He died about eight years ago when I was still working. Our mom, his wife, had preceded him in death so all the family assets were in his name and in our case they were almost all in investment accounts with my brother and I listed as beneficiaries. The estate value was a little higher than your mom’s but not much higher. There were no other heirs and my brother and I get along great so it was a very easy estate to execute. We have no state estate tax so we were lucky there. And since the amount of the estate that wasn’t directly payable on death was under $100K nothing had to go through probate. Just a quickie probate form to fill out, no judge or court. I think that step up in basis is a bigger deal than the state estate tax you could avoid in the time left for gifting. Your biggest issue is figuring out what to do with the family factory I would imagine. My dad also lost his ability to communicate due to Parkinson’s. His mind stayed sharp but he couldn’t not communicate, it was terrible. Thoughts and prayers for your mom and your family in dealing with this.

  9. Debra says 03 January 2022 at 05:41

    RMD is now 72

    • J.D. says 03 January 2022 at 07:36

      This is true for people who are now aging into RMDs. But for Mom, the age is/was 70-1/2.

  10. Eileen says 03 January 2022 at 06:59

    My suggestion is to make sure that you have, in writing, communicated what you are doing every single step of the way. OF COURSE, I realize you are keeping your siblings in the loop but having been witness to what happened with my in-laws, I feel compelled to make sure that a sibling with the most understanding/control makes sure nothing is left in a gray area. It may sounds weird to send an email follow-up as decisions are made and actions are taken, but please do so. (you probably already do this, I just have PTSD from decisions that harmed my spouse, his father, his other sibling)
    Personally, there’s no way I’d touch her money (regardless of tax impact) when she might need that 45k to pay for additional care. Again, witnessing what happened with my father-in-law and watching my 93 yo mother decline and expenses rise, there’s just no way that’s a decision I’d come to.

    • J.D. says 03 January 2022 at 07:39

      So far, so good with the communication, I think. We have a group chat where we keep each other updated, and for any major decisions, there’s always at least two of us involved in the process.

      I just initiated a big ($50k) withdrawal from Mom’s SEP-IRA to her checking account. That’ll serve as her RMD for the year and give us flexibility to use that cash for other needs, whether those are related to her health, her house, or (at the end of 2022) some sort of distribution of her estate.

  11. Marc says 03 January 2022 at 08:04

    As I’m sure you know, if your mother eventually requires full nursing care, the cost could be very high. My dad, who died two years ago, went from living independently, though assisted living, to full nursing care in the course of a year. His last three years cost over $10,000 per month. His “only” medical issues were dementia and the need for a wheelchair. My brothers and I considered trying to gift some of his estate in advance, but learned about the Medicaid lookback period.

  12. zzzzzz says 03 January 2022 at 16:22

    Do you have a succession plan for her share of the box factory business? If that involves you and your brothers inheriting it, you should consider transferring $16k worth of ownership to each of you each year. More generally, you should consider transferring ownership to whomever she wanted to inherit it, in $16k chunks.
    That would preserve her more liquid assets for her medical care, while still reducing the size of her estate.
    Another thought is to convert some of her IRA to Roth, perhaps enough so the combination of her RMD and the conversion amount filled her 12% bracket. The income tax on the conversion amount would be due some time anyway, but by paying it now, you’d be reducing her estate by the amount of the income tax associated with the conversion.

  13. Gene says 04 January 2022 at 06:33

    For our family and my parents, two of my brothers opened an Edward Jones account in both their names. We called the account the Dave and Jerry account, named after the two brothers. They managed the account jointly Jerry reported the taxes on his return and was reimbursed for them from the account.
    My parents put some of their money into the account each year, and trusted the 2 brothers to manage it for them. The money was technically owned by the brothers, but is was my parents money and they could access it whenever they needed/wanted. In their later years it was used for medical expenses.
    This works if you have brothers (whoever) you can trust, and the parents agree.

  14. Ben says 04 January 2022 at 10:08

    This is not an easy time in life. I wish you and your family good luck. If you’re willing, please continue to share on the blog about what you learn as it will surely help others (including myself) as we plan for our parents’ future as well. Wishing you a happy and healthy new year!

  15. Charlotte says 04 January 2022 at 14:56

    Glad to see the real JD back! It is these types of post that kept my attention since 2006 (with a break while you were away).
    Real life but practical. Thank you.

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